Things we don't speak about

Things we don't speak about

I am often astonished that in today's world there are still many taboo subjects. We claim to be an enlightened society, but in the end there's so much between females and males that is never talked about. Until now.


Please don't get me wrong. I am not writing this article to attract new readers. It's something that seriously bugs me. Because somehow it feels inhuman that we care so little about each other. So, here's just a short list of things you might not have thought or spoken about ever:

Scarlett with a totally normal female bust

1. Different breast sizes

In most women, the left breast is a bit larger than the right. Only very few women have perfectly symmetrical breasts. A slight difference in size between the right and left breast is normal.

This also means, there's no reason to do anything about this in post production. I never retouched breasts in Photoshop to look equally large. Those little imperfections are what makes nature so interesting, to be honest.

2. Period bloating

Period bloating is when a woman feels her abdomen is heavy and swollen just before and at the start of her period. As this is not a medical blog, you see where this is going.

When you schedule a nude shoot, it could be an advantage to choose a date where the belly is not bloated. I know how difficult this is, but I had to deal with slim women quite a few times who were unlucky enough to be naked in front of my camera when having their period. Just be aware that I am aware of it (and every photographer should be) and I will work hard to get the best results (without showing a swollen belly) no matter what.

Men should know about the menstrual cycle, too. And women should not be afraid to mention it on set.

3. Skin color

There are all types of skin color. It ranges from the lightest hues to darkest brown. We should be more aware of this and not use skin color for our identification.

And I am not speaking about a race debate, it's much simpler. Don't think you look unattractive when you aren't bronzed brown. Be a bit more open-minded to the different skin tones and don't aim for the tan always.

Photography-wise you should be aware that it's possible to adjust skin tones to whatever hue you wish in post production. It's a pain in the ass, but it's possible.

If you look for perfection, you'll never be content.

4. Inferiority complex

I can say this from my experience when working with models. Yes, those attractive women you would never dare to approach on the street because they are too beautiful. We are all the same.

We all have times when we feel inadequate. It is human to feel this way. Just don't be too hard on yourself and don't think you are less perfect than anyone else. It's just social media that makes you feel this way.

5. Feminism

Feminism does not refer to a battle of the sexes. It aims for a common goal for all. Same chances for everyone, no focus on sex at all. It also means that women are not victims and should not position themselves as the weak sex. And it definitely means that you can live in a modern society, dress yourself sexy, show off your body, even nude and yet your are not being objectified.

Sensual photography is not about male domination over females. There's always respect and dignity. This is not in contradiction with playfulness or seduction.

And it's still ok to be submissive or play such a role if this was your own choice.

To sum things up: There is a difference between the sexes, between people in general, but not in the rights we have. Equal rights for all of us.

I am a very positive person which makes it difficult for me to raise subjects like the five ones I mentioned here. But I believe, it's important to speak more open in our society. And I happen to work with many people, mostly women. So, I run into these issues regularly. Please: Chin up, and cheer up!