Modern communication between genders resembles a minefield. Yet the rules are actually quite simple: best not to communicate at all. The potential conversation partner is wearing headphones and staring at her smartphone anyway — the contemporary version of medieval armor.
For the vast majority of men, this is a frustrating situation. They're already too shy to approach women, and now they're not even being noticed anymore.
Between headphones and screen-fixation, they feel like ghosts in public spaces. Invisible and meaningless. Sounds funny, but I mean it seriously.
The recipe for success is surprisingly simple: Completely normal, attractive women showing themselves in everyday situations. In pajamas in bed, in underwear at breakfast, half-naked on the couch. No unreachable supermodels, but rather the friendly girl next door. And the best part: They even respond! "Do you like the picture?" — "Yes, great!" — "I have a few more..." A digital connection develops, while outside in the real world, smartphones continue to be held up as social shields.
The great irony: Those very people who condemn every form of female objectification have, through their over-regulation of everyday interaction, created the breeding ground for this form of digital intimacy.
Also because in real life every compliment is viewed as potential harassment, paid online flirting flourishes, serving the longing for attention and recognition.
Don't get me wrong, I support respectful interaction between genders and would describe myself as a feminist. But perhaps sometimes less would be more. Fewer rules, fewer smartphones, fewer artificial barriers. Then we might need less digital substitute satisfaction for our very natural need for contact and exchange.
This rapid social development continues to amaze me. In less than two decades, communication between genders has completely transformed — from spontaneous conversation on the subway to paid interaction on OnlyFans. A development that I still need to digest and whose new rules I still need to learn. Sometimes I wonder if we're losing something essential in the process.
By the way, the lady with the beautiful boots has gotten off by now. Perhaps she's uploading her latest photo right now.
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This article has absolutely nothing to do with Lina. I only chose her as the title image because she's wearing boots in the picture.